There are so many choices that need to be made in the wedding so there are bound to be a lot of conflicts for making decisions, Sylvia and I are no exception. Instead of
compromising, we've decided to solicit your help! Ultimately, the choices are made to make sure the guests are comfortable and enjoy the wedding! This is part 1 of
probably 3 polling our friends to help us make the decision! There will be no text messaging option! Heh heh.
Please select a choice!
| Results | Vote Count | Percentage | | Voted for Yes | 30 | 39% | | Voted for No | 33 | 43% | | Voted for Other | 13 | 17% | | Percentage might not add up to 100% due to rounding. |
| Voted: Other | 2005-07-26 00:00:13 | |
| Voted: Yes from Sharyn | 2005-07-26 00:00:52 | | Flowers rock. You definitely need flowers! :)
-Sharyn |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-26 00:03:36 | | save the money for more Red Label. |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-26 05:25:24 | | I agree with James... but because I dont want Sylvia to be sad, I suggest you have a stripper in each table right in the centre... It may not be cheaper (depending on the flowers), but it will look better ;) |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-26 07:30:14 | | Think pictures for the rest of your life. YEARS and YEARS of thinking "hmm...flowers would have made it prettier." |
| Voted: Yes from Mao | 2005-07-26 08:34:19 | | weddings without flowers might be a bit like wonton soup without the wonton, don't you think?! |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-26 09:07:48 | | You could choose a centerpiece that is relatively stable so that it doesn't tip over when the lazy susan spins. |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-26 09:22:39 | | a center piece, yes, but maybe not flowers, i'm sure sylvia can find something creative for people to stare at while they eat. |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-26 10:09:15 | | If its a chinese banquet table, i don't think you'll need it because it's going to get in the way. and if you have typical chinese guests coming to your wedding, they will just take it off, put in on the floor. =D if you want to decorate, i think put little things around the table (small votive candle holders with fruit, or flower petals, etc.) |
| Voted: Other | 2005-07-26 10:22:58 | | I like Sylvia's idea of a tall vase with fresh fruits. Or maybe something that's off the table, like a small palm tree, that way it wouldn't take up space on the table, but it would fill the space above the table. |
| Voted: Other | 2005-07-26 10:25:24 | |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-26 10:36:17 | | Defer to the lady on matters of flowers. In any case, lazy susans make great dance floor props. |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-26 11:36:09 | | I think its best not to have a centerpiece in this scenario as the centerpiece will go spinning. And if its some sorta floral arrangement, leaves and such could fall into the dishes. |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-26 12:30:19 | |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-26 16:28:00 | | I think it's unnecessary.. The attention of everyone will be on James and Sylvia. Nobody is going to comment on a missing centerpiece, and if there is a centerpiece there, nobody's going to remember it! |
| Voted: No from Salthouse | 2005-07-26 20:56:10 | | It is hard to see people over the flowers |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-26 20:59:15 | | I am not sure how things work here, but the wedding banquets I've been to in Taiwan don't usually have flowers on the lazy susan. |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-26 21:08:08 | | This way people can talk to each other. |
| Voted: No from sunny | 2005-07-26 21:08:17 | | i just went to the biggest chinese wedding banquet ever (~1100 people). there were no center pieces - no one noticed - we were all too busy eating =) |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-26 21:40:19 | |
| Voted: Yes from Lili Banani | 2005-07-26 21:43:34 | |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-26 21:45:25 | | Not for a chinese banquet. Just add that money to the food. The only things that guests remember from a wedding are the food, the music and the bride. =) |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-26 22:04:58 | |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-26 22:05:14 | |
| Voted: Yes from Jason | 2005-07-26 22:05:22 | | Are you kidding? Put the flowers in the middle. Are you from Naperville or something? ;-) |
| Voted: Yes from Janelle | 2005-07-26 22:15:43 | | I totally think there should be flower somewhere on the table if not at the center. What's a wedding without flowers everywhere from the ceremony to the banquet. |
| Voted: No from Paul Chai | 2005-07-26 22:42:59 | | it depends on if you want to see people from the other side of the table. Most weddings I attended, the flowers were removed after dinner begins anyways, so I would think it's somewhat just decoratory purpose and a waste of money. |
| Voted: Yes from goatload | 2005-07-26 22:50:14 | | I say yes, but how about you do a really skinny tall vase with flowers that "flower" out at the top? |
| Voted: Yes from grace | 2005-07-26 22:57:28 | |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-26 23:04:32 | |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-26 23:28:02 | |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-26 23:38:27 | |
| Voted: Yes from Vanessa | 2005-07-26 23:42:59 | | I vote for something decorative in the middle. Make it so that guest can still see each other from across the table--so even a low flower center piece will be nice.
(LOL- I just read the "He said/She said" and James, it looks like us ladies all think this is important. ;) |
| Voted: Other from Jocelyn | 2005-07-27 00:17:56 | | I have to agree with Sylvia here; think of every big Chinese New Year event you've ever been to...there was ALWAYS a fight over who got to take the centerpiece home at the end of the night. Then again....if there aren't that many crazy Chinese people, it may not be such an issue. :-) I can't believe you didn't let me know you were in the Bay Area recently! |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-27 00:29:35 | | Centerpieces are not necessary for a Chinese banquet since usually the entire lazy susan is needed for serving food |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-27 00:36:28 | | U need a beautiful center piece that's not over whelming or too tall so that you can't see the other side. But a center piece will make the table look nicer. People DO REMEMBER center pieces, or at least I do. |
| Voted: Yes from Karen | 2005-07-27 02:05:45 | | My cousin had a tall vase/pillar thing so that there were flowers but didn't get in the way of the food or ppl talking. i can send you a pic if you want to see! but you should DEF. have flowers - they add such a nice touch (visually and fraqance-wise) |
| Voted: Other from Peter | 2005-07-27 06:01:27 | | I say just listen to the woman on this James, heck I'd let the woman make most of the decisions if she wants; it'd save u some piece n quite, and also direct her attention away from the more important stuff: your bachelor and after parties!!! BOOYA, hahaha |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-27 08:38:07 | | It's all about the atmosphere and the memories. Flowers (or anything pretty and colourful) in the middle will definitely make the hall look nicer.
Many things are unpractical and unnecessary at a wedding (wedding dresses for example!) but they are all there to meke the event something memorable and beautiful! |
| Voted: Yes from Yi | 2005-07-27 10:01:19 | | I like the idea of a tall thin vase that leaves a small footprint on the lazy susan leaving plenty of room for food, but also adds a touch of elegance to the table. A few long stem flowers would look terrific. It's so simple you could probably do it yourself (or illicit friends' help) to save money. |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-27 10:06:40 | | I'm allergic to flowers |
| Voted: No from PRK | 2005-07-27 10:28:14 | | Center pieces, especially tall ones, always get in the way of conversation across the table. |
| Voted: Yes from Scott | 2005-07-27 11:03:45 | | Sorry James...but girl's say in wedding discussions outweighs whatever guys say by 100 to 1. Just accept it and you will be much happier. (It also makes planning a lot easier -- for you). ;-) |
| Voted: No from Jamal | 2005-07-27 12:06:51 | | I agree with James, but I'm really practical...I don't remember any floral arrangement from any wedding I've attended. |
| Voted: Other from Justin | 2005-07-27 12:15:13 | | James...can't you figure out a way to have holographic flowers?? I would opt for something noperishable to compliment the flowers, you something you or others could take home to remeber the day. |
| Voted: Yes from Eva | 2005-07-27 12:19:48 | | Flowers are a must for all weddings!! They completely brighten up any room! |
| Voted: Other | 2005-07-27 12:44:27 | | Centerpiece of food with flowers made of vegetables or sashimi that is in a tall pedestal or use a large huricane with a goldfish with food plates around it. You can see through the water so there is no need to move it. |
| Voted: Yes from Mackel | 2005-07-27 12:58:50 | | Yes, but it should be small so that it doesn't get in the way. |
| Voted: Yes from Carol | 2005-07-27 13:23:43 | | When guests first enter the dining room, the lazy susans will look naked without a centerpiece. I like the ideas of having fruit or snacky things in the center for people to nibble on while they wait for everyone to arrive -- which can take forever and people tend to be hungry. Also, when there is food in the center of the lazy susam, someone always gets their sleeves dirty when reaching for the plate. You might as well fill the space to avoid messes. |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-27 13:35:12 | |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-27 14:20:23 | |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-27 14:30:35 | | it's not my money, so yeah spend the bucks |
| Voted: No from Henry JIM | 2005-07-27 16:04:43 | | It blocks the view, of people seated at the same table and of the banquet itself. Sylvie and I left them out at our wedding, after we found ourselves removing it at a friend's wedding. Have a huge flower arrangement at the entrance to the hall or family photo area instead. |
| Voted: No from Margaret | 2005-07-27 17:11:47 | | having a flowers as a center piece is too typical. Do something different!!! :) |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-27 17:13:13 | | We had a Chinese banquet style dinner at our reception and we had a centerpiece, and there was plenty of room for it and no food spills! It definitely looks nice to have a centerpiece! :) |
| Voted: Other from chris | 2005-07-27 17:24:45 | | something should be there, but something solid that won't flap around as u use she table. |
| Voted: Other from Witz | 2005-07-27 18:25:15 | | James... make it easy on yourself. If and when you dont agree. Her way it shall be. |
| Voted: Other from Mary | 2005-07-29 15:34:47 | | Hi James and Sylvia,
First, congrats!! I am so happy for you guys. Andrew and I just got married (May 29, '05) also, it was a pretty wedding up in Montreal. Anyways, about your center piece debate, if possible, do what we did. We also had a chinese style banquet, and we had flowers hanging down from the ceiling like lights, with tea light candles. It was very very pretty and also did not get in the way of the food. Everyone loved it! My email is stmwang@gmail.com if you want to see some pics of the banquet setting. :) Take care and again, congrats!
Mary |
| Voted: No from Leah | 2005-07-29 19:32:56 | | Not a centerpiece but something little in the middle to decorate. |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-29 21:22:12 | |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-30 09:17:18 | |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-30 19:35:31 | | I like the idea of an alternative centerpiece. |
| Voted: Other from Emily | 2005-07-30 19:49:07 | | How about a couple of small glass/clear plastic containers with water/rocks & some small bamboo? You can definitely see through/over them and you don't need much water so it won't slosh all over the place. You could even make the bamboos the party gift. Just a thought. |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-07-31 19:24:15 | | Would look cool. |
| Voted: No | 2005-07-31 19:54:06 | |
| Voted: Yes from Alexis | 2005-08-01 09:57:26 | | You have to have a centerpiece. The flowers make the reception festive, and after all this is a celebration. Sorry James, Sylvia is right! |
| Voted: Other from "the maid" | 2005-08-01 12:40:46 | | okay, i retract my earlier no vote. of course i did not read everything, or even the "yes, others" option. i think that if the table is large, then, yes, the middle will not be very convenient for food, but if it is blocking people's views then it will likely be taken off the table and placed on the floor or something. hence the solution should be to have a tall, unique "sylvia" piece .... |
| Voted: No from Joyce Bossom | 2005-08-02 12:22:54 | | Suspend the flower arrangement from the ceiling, if possible. That will leave plenty of table space. |
| Voted: No from Angela | 2005-08-13 20:06:28 | | No need at a chinese banquet style table, as it'd be harder to see people across the table. However, you could have a smaller / shorter centerpiece instead. |
| Voted: No | 2005-08-29 17:28:04 | | Save your money for the honeymoon! |
| Voted: No from Kris | 2005-08-31 08:10:48 | |
| Voted: No from Julia Chiu | 2005-08-31 10:05:40 | | Llike what you said - it's family style.. Dont want ppl knocking over the center piece by accident.. |
| Voted: Other from Anna | 2005-09-01 12:52:59 | | Why not have a center piece that is filled with fruits that the guest can enjoy. That way you keep to the family-style lazy susan full of food and it makes the table esthetically(sp?) pleasing to the eye at the beginning of the reception and not to mention much prettier for the pictures, because when it's all said and done you won't remember a thing and the pictures will serve as the documention of your perfect day you will come to cherish and be thankful to have.
Otherwise...have the centerpiece you like, make sure the photographer takes a picture of the tables in the beginning and then have the servers take them off when the guests are seated and food is about to be served.
Remember that your wedding day should be what you want it to be. If one of you wants the centerpiece the other should indulge, after all that is what marriage is all about..compromising and indulging the other person because you know it will make them happy to know that you can be selfless. |
| Voted: Yes | 2005-09-05 21:26:30 | | Yes. It can have bouquets and candles on candelabras. It gets the flowers out of the way of the main eating area. If it is placed correctly, there should be no danger of the flowers tilting over. Also, having candelabras at every table can be too stuffy so go for either at every other or every three tables just to create an ambiance and then you can have submerged flowers (small contained flowers inside vases filled over with water) or whatnot on other tables to create more character on the remaining tables. Make sure the color coordinates with the bouquets on the candelabras. Should be a gorgeous layout! |
| Voted: No from Anand | 2005-10-12 18:57:15 | |
| Voted: Yes from Sis to the Rescue of Beloved | 2005-11-01 23:02:44 | | Awww Syl... still not decided? Well, lemme see... hey, i've got an idea! Since height and room seem to be an issue, you _could_ have a centerpiece with waterlilies, orchids, and jasmine flowers :o) or better yet... since you are the bride, why not just a jasmine centerpiece since they are the smallest flowers of them all and since you, my dear sis, will be/are the center of James' life and have a piece of his heart. voila -- get it? -- "centerpiece". Awww.... how sweet. James also happens to be in the word jasmine!... representing that both of your lives will be intertwined in love and harmony... aww... how sweet and romantic. Choice of tea is a given... Jasmine, of course! :o) That was easy. And only you will understand the above reasoning.
Love ya Always |
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